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If you're a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your "bumbum" touch your husband.
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How can you use pillow to divide bed or decide that you need your own room, for what? Two shall become one, hence One bed, one bedroom.
A pen*s is a wife's toy - she is supposed to play with it. There are so many married women who don't even know how their husbands' pen*s look like.
She only feels it when he enters her. Shooooo!!!
Look! It's your play toy. Feel it, play with it. It is not a Taboo.
They've never touched it, let alone seen it in a broad day light because the husband switches off the lights before undressing and the wife says I can't have sex where there is light; Sorry is your name!
Irrespective of how important sex is in our lives, most times it is the least discussed topic by people even married ones.
A lot of people don't associate sex with God - they associate it with Satan and darkness, as if sex is not Holy.
The Bible/Quran is explicit when it comes to sex.
Sex is holy WITHIN MARRIAGE and there is no prescribed style.
Not discussing sex in a Marriage seldom leads to divorce or problems in the union!
Many husbands leave their wives to seek sexual pleasures in other places. Have you ever asked yourself what those women have that you don't?
The answer is Simple.
Wives have become very rigid and even sleep with their panties. Why would a wife sleep with panties on, what for?
Let me repeat myself at this point again; If you're a married woman, you should sleep naked and let your "bumbum" touch your husband.
Marriage is about being free with your body in front of your partner.
A woman should parade naked and do some modelling to entice her husband.
I blame couples for not making time for sex and complaining about being tired, God created sex for procreation and also for pleasure. You can't marry and not have a good time in bed...
If you don't take care of him/her now, someone outside the canopy of your matrimony will do.
Add Flavour to your Marriage; Change or improve your sex Life today. Love Making is Sweet. Always invent something New about it...
Mind you!
To the singles reading this, Love Making is STRICTLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE; hence this piece is specially dedicated to the married ones here, as a single, Make hay while the Sun shines.
Prepare mentally and maritally towards making use of it in your marital home.
Yours truly...

YOU WAN GO ABORT ABI?
I pity your life my sister
What if he shows up tomorrow to accept what he had once denied?
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What if your man becomes born again, goes for deliverance and he is redeemed?
My dear young lady, whether he likes it or YES, the child belongs to both of you. The irresponsible behaviour of the father is no justification for you to settle for an Abortion.
Please, allow that innocent child to live because if you dare try to abort it, you MAY not come out of that abortion theater alive.
CALL IT A CURSE and I will tell you it's a FACT.
Better know today that Abortion does not stop you from being a mother, rather it makes you a MOTHER OF A DEAD CHILD.
So, what's the point?
Christiano Ronaldo who has repeatedly bagged the WORLD BEST PLAYER Award was almost aborted those days. Imagine what loss such could have been to the family if the mother had aborted.
Thank GOD you are here reading this; it shows God wants to save you of the stress from aborting the life of an unborn child.
I'm not judging you in anyway. All I want you to do is to have a rethink of the decision to abort.
DON'T DO IT!
That you're pregnant is enough, have you thought of what might happen during abortion process?
I know that one of your problem is YOUR PARENTS' REACTION when they hear you are pregnant. Why not think about it this way. DID YOU THINK YOUR PARENT WILL PRAISE YOU EITHER WHEN YOU DIE IN THE UGLY PROCESS OF ABORTION?
My Dear Lady, Look for SOMEONE your parents respect to help you tell them if you cannot tell them yourself. It may not take up to what you think before they discover that WHAT HAS HAPPENED HAS HAPPENED.
Look, I'm not really concerned about how anybody feels about your state; your friends, neighbours, relatives, Ex, or even your Church/Mosque Members, all I care about is...
"You have a beautiful future with your child and Few years from now, I'm sure I will be so proud of you both."
It's not as if I'm encouraging fornication, but since it has happened, there's no point shouting at you.

RELATIONSHIP COMPARISON;
Good or Bad?
You might be right that your current partner's attitude to your Relationship is far from your expectations.
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In fact, of all the Relationships you've run so far, this current one is indeed, on off-side.
SEGUN was NEVER like this. Even JIDE, KOLA, SEUN & TAYO whom you thought were bad, they never treated this you this way.
Hmmmmmnnn!
Look!
The easiest way to create HEARTACHES for oneself in a shaky relationship is by one MAKING COMPARISON BETWEEN and AMONGST ONE'S CURRENT RELATIONSHIP & THE PAST ONES.
It's an indirect way of taking yourself back to a PAST which you've once struggled out of, thereby making a bias conclusion about your current Relationship Life.
As a matter of fact, your current partner might truly be the worse of all, but the bottom line is:
THERE IS NO RELATIONSHIP THAT IS DEVOID OF ISSUES, STRESS & "BUTS"
If you think you EX-, SEGUN is now better than DEJI, then tell me; WHY DID YOU LEAVE SEGUN IN THE FIRST PLACE?
WOULD YOU RATHER NOW LEAVE YOUR CURRENT GUY BECAUSE YOU FEEL THE PAST IS EVEN BETTER?
...guys are not left out;
The easiest way for a Guy to create HEARTACHES for himself in a shaky relationship is by MAKING CONTRAST BETWEEN and AMONGST HIS CURRENT RELATIONSHIP & THE PAST ONES.
As a matter of fact, BIMPE, who is now your EX- might truly be the worse of all Ladies you've dated.
You showed her enough care and love with all you have, even at your detriment, yet she left you simply because she saw a better guy who does it better than you did.
Yeah! I know her exit was indeed a huge emotional blow which nearly tore you apart, but look, the bottom line is;
That BIMPE treated you bad does not in anyway mean you must TRANSFER wrong emotions unto your next Fianceé and other Ladies you meet thereafter.
If you think your Ex-, BIMPE has made you experience an unforgivable heartache, then tell me;
HOW MANY LADIES WOULD SUFFER FOR BIMPE'S SAKE BEFORE YOU LET GO?
WOULD YOU NOW PUNISH OTHERS EMOTIONALLY & FINANCIALLY SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU GOT JILTED BY A LADY YOU'VE ONCE SACRIFICED ALL YOU HAD FOR?
Think and ACT RIGHTLY; let your PAST pass you by and move on, by letting your "X" be where he/she belongs.
STOP MAKING YOUR CURRENT PARTNER PAY FOR WHAT YOUR PAST PARTNERS BROUGHT TO YOU.

How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.
1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.
Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”
Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

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2. Separate the facts from the feelings.

What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.
3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.
Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.
4. Develop and cultivate compassion.
Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.
5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.
The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.
The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.
6. Partner, heal thyself.
Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.

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7. Ask questions when you’re unsure or are making assumptions.
All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners’ behavior means. For example: “She doesn’t want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore.” We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what’s not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.
8. Make time for your relationship.
No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.
9. Say the “hard things” from love.
Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.

Relationship Help

Advice for Building Relationships that are Healthy, Happy and Satisfying

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A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others. However, if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you can get back. These tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong, or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks.

How to strengthen your loving relationship

Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad:

What makes a healthy love relationship?

• Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.
• Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, though, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right.
• Keeping outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too.
• Communicating. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Nonverbal cues—body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm—are critical to communication.

Relationship advice tip 1: Keep physical intimacy alive

Touch is a fundamental part of human existence. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, loving touch and holding on brain development. These benefits do not end in childhood. Life without physical contact with others is a lonely life indeed.
Studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body’s levels of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. In a committed relationship between two adult partners, physical intercourse is often a cornerstone of the relationship. However, intercourse should not be the only method of physical intimacy in a relationship. Regular, affectionate touch—holding hands, hugging, or kissing—is equally important.
Be sensitive to what your partner likes. While touch is a key part of a healthy relationship, it’s important to take some time to find out what your partner really likes. Unwanted touching or inappropriate overtures can make the other person tense up and retreat—exactly what you don’t want.

Relationship advice tip 2: Spend quality time together

You probably have fond memories of when you were first dating your loved one. Everything may have seemed new and exciting, and you may have spent hours just chatting together or coming up with new, exciting things to try. However, as time goes by, children, demanding jobs, long commutes, different hobbies and other obligations can make it hard to find time together. It’s critical for your relationship, though, to make time for yourselves. If you don’t have quality time, communication and understanding start to erode.

Simple ways to connect as a couple and rekindle love

• Commit to spending quality time together on a regular basis. Even during very busy and stressful times, a few minutes of really sharing and connecting can help keep bonds strong.
• Find something that you enjoy doing together, whether it is a shared hobby, dance class, daily walk, or sitting over a cup of coffee in the morning.
• Try something new together. Doing new things together can be a fun way to connect and keep things interesting. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant or going on a day trip to a place you’ve never been before.

Couples are often more fun and playful in the early stages of a relationship. However, this playful attitude can sometimes be forgotten as life challenges or old resentments start getting in the way. Keeping a sense of humor can actually help you get through tough times, reduce stress, and work through issues more easily.

Focus on having fun together

• Think about playful ways to surprise your partner, like bringing flowers or a favorite movie home unexpectedly.
• Learn from the “play experts” together. Playing with pets or small children can really help you reconnect with your playful side. If it’s something you do together, you also learn more about your partner and how he or she likes to have fun.
• Make a habit of laughing together whenever you can. Most situations are not as bleak as they appear to be when you approach them with humor.

Learning how to play again

A little humor and playful interaction can go a long way in relieving tense situations and helping you see the brighter side. If you’re feeling a little rusty, learn more about how playful communication can improve your relationship, and for fun ways to practice this skill.

Relationship advice tip 3: Never stop communicating

Good communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. When people stop communicating well, they stop relating well, and times of change or stress can really bring out disconnect. As long as you are communicating, you can work through whatever problem you’re facing.

Learn your partner’s emotional cues

Each of us is a little different in how we best receive information. Some people might respond better to sight, sound, or touch. Your partner’s responses may be different from yours. Take some time to learn your partner’s cues, and be sure to communicate your own as well. For example, one person might find a brief massage after a stressful day a loving mode of communication—while another might just want to talk over a hot cup of tea.
So much of our communication is transmitted by what we don’t say. Nonverbal cues—such as eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm—communicate much more than words. For a relationship to work well, each person has to be receptive to sending and receiving nonverbal cues. Learning to understand this “body language” can help you better understand what your partner is trying to say. Think about what you are transmitting as well, and if what you say matches what you feel. If you say “I’m fine,” but you clench your teeth and look away, then your body is clearly signaling you are not.

Question your assumptions

If you’ve known each other for a while, you may assume that your partner has a pretty good idea of what you are thinking and what you need. However, your partner is not a mind reader. While your partner may have some idea, it is much healthier to directly express your needs to avoid any confusion. Your partner may sense something, but it might not be what you need. What’s more, people change, and what you needed and wanted five years ago, for example, may be very different now. Getting in the habit of expressing your needs helps you weather difficult times, which otherwise may lead to increasing resentment, misunderstanding, and anger.

Use your senses to keep stress in check

If you’re not calm and focused, you won’t be able to communicate effectively. The best way to reduce stress quickly and reliably is through the senses. But each person responds differently to sensory input, so you need to find things that are soothing to you.

Relationship advice tip 4: Healthy relationships are built on give and take

If you expect to get what you want 100% of a time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on compromise, and it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.

Recognize what’s important to your partner

Knowing what is truly important to your partner can go a long way towards building goodwill and an atmosphere of compromise. On the flip side, it’s also important for your partner to recognize your wants and for you to state them clearly. Constantly compromising your needs for others' will build resentment and anger.

Don’t make “winning” your goal

If you approach your partner with the attitude that things have to be your way or else, it will be difficult to reach a compromise. Sometimes this attitude comes from not having your needs met while you were younger, or it could be from years of accumulated resentment building up in your current relationship. It’s all right to have strong convictions about something, but your partner deserves to be heard as well. You are more likely to get your needs met if you respect what your partner needs, and compromise when you can.

Learn how to respectfully resolve conflict

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but to keep a relationship strong, both people need to feel they’ve been heard. The goal is not to win but to resolve the conflict with respect and love.

• Make sure you are fighting fair.
• Don’t attack someone directly; use “I” statements to communicate how you feel.
• Don’t drag old arguments into the mix.
• Keep the focus on the issue at hand, and respect the other person.

Relationship advice tip 5: Expect ups and downs

It’s also important to recognize that there are ups and downs in every relationship. You won’t always be on the same page. Sometimes one partner may be struggling with an issue that stresses them, such as the death of a close family member. Other events, like job loss or severe health problems, can affect both partners and make it difficult to relate to each other. You might have different ideas of managing finances or raising children. Different people cope with stress differently, and misunderstanding can rapidly turn to frustration and anger.

Relationship advice for getting through life’s ups and downs

• Don’t take out your problems on your partner. Life stresses can make us short tempered. If you are coping with a lot of stress, it might seem easier to snap at your partner. Fighting like this might initially feel like a release, but it slowly poisons your relationship. Find other ways to vent your anger and frustration.
• Some problems are bigger than both of you. Trying to force a solution can cause even more problems. Every person works through problems and issues in his or her own way. Remember that you’re a team. Continuing to move forward together can get you through the rough spots.
• Be open to change. Change is inevitable in life, and it will happen whether you go with it or fight it. Flexibility is essential to adapt to the change that is always taking place in any relationship, and it allows you to grow together through both the good times and the bad.
• Don’t ignore problems. Whatever problems arise in a romantic relationship, it’s important to face them together as a couple. If an aspect of the relationship stops working, don’t simply ignore it, but instead address it with your partner. Things change, so respond to them together as they do.

Romantic relationships require ongoing attention

Many couples focus on their relationship only when there are specific, unavoidable problems to overcome. Once the problems have been resolved they often switch their attention back to their careers, kids, or other interests. However, romantic relationships require ongoing attention and commitment for love to flourish. As long as the health of a romantic relationship remains important to you, it is going to require your attention and effort.

If you need more relationship help and advice

Sometimes problems in a relationship may seem too complex or overwhelming for a couple to handle on their own. In that case, it’s important to reach out together for help. There are a number of options available, including:

• Couples counseling. It’s a big investment, and time, energy, focus and commitment are needed from both people to make a difference, but you might consider couples or marriage counseling to resolve your differences. Both parties need to be willing and able to honestly communicate what he or she needs, face the issues that arise in counseling, and then make the necessary changes. It’s important also that both people feel comfortable with the counselor.
• Spiritual advice. Some couples benefit from spiritual advice from a religious figure such as a pastor or rabbi. This tends to work best if both persons have similar convictions of faith and have a good relationship with the spiritual advisor.
• Emotional Intelligence building. Try using Helpguide's Emotional Intelligence Toolkit , a free utility for building emotional health and emotional intelligence. This in-depth course provides articles, videos, and audio meditations designed to help you put the skills of emotional intelligence and communication into practice.
• Individual therapy. Sometimes one person may need specialized help. For example, someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one may need counseling to help him or her process the grief. If your loved one needs help, don’t feel like you are a failure for not providing him or her everything he or she needs. No one can fulfill everyone’s needs, and getting the right help can make a tremendous difference in your relationship

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Sex and love are often confused by many as the same which is one of the major causes of breakups nowadays.

Having great sex with someone doesn't mean you love them and any relationship built on that is bound to fall apart because it started for all the wrong reasons but true love always stand the test of time.

Tor Constantino of The Good Men Project lists a few abilities couples should have in common to help secure lasting love:

1. AvailAbility: The first necessary "Ability" for ensuring a great love and relationship is the ability to be present and in the moment, mentally, emotionally and physically for your partner. It's important to note that being available is more than just physical proximity. The hearts of a couple sitting right next to each other can be miles apart. Obviously, there are long-distance relationships due to the economy, military duty or other circumstances that separate individuals, but distance doesn't have to equate to a doomed love. The key is maximizing your availability to your partner as much as possible—mentally, emotionally and physically. If you're available to your mate both mentally and emotionally, you can still be a great lover despite a challenging physical distance.
2. DependAbility: Perhaps the most important "Ability" of any relationship is the ability to be earn and keep the trust of your mate. Trust is also one of the most difficult aspects of a relationship to achieve, and it's also the easiest to destroy. Yet dependability is an easy concept to understand. It necessitates that you're someone who can be relied upon, that you keep your word, that you follow through on promises, and that you're worthy of trust. Betrayal is a violation of that dependability, that trust, and very few relationships can survive a pattern of that bad behavior. Maybe that's why Dante’s Inferno reserves the last circle of Hell for those who have betrayed a special relationship.
3. AccountAbility: The truth is that all of us make mistakes in our relationships, but if you want your love to last you have to have the "Ability" to fess up, admit your mistakes and apologize—quickly. Accountability to one another is critical to long-term success in any relationship. It’s about mutual understanding, shared expectations, as well as individually accepting the consequences and outcomes of our own actions or words. But as individuals, we tend to be notoriously selfish. I know I'm more apt to blame someone else for my mistakes and shortfalls, even when I'm obviously at fault. That's because I’m human and you are, too. Accountability and love require us to rise above that selfish, individual nature and consider the needs of others first.