Deborah Jumoke Akinrinsola

A MUST READ)....... They both claim to be in love
for 5years. All through their relationship, the
guy kept insulting her, he beats her up
publicly, molestz her when she's not in the
mood. He also slept with her sister and
...

posted copies of her nude body all over the
campus. But the girl stood by him and loved
him even more. Her friends persuaded her
and tried to discourage her, but she kept
putting up with him and even helped him
excel inall his lectures and exams. On the final
day of graduation, the guy was to graduate
with a first class, a day filled with joy for her
and him. He sent her a text and told her ''the
relationship is over.'' ' How cruel some guys
can be! While waiting for his award at the
convocation ceremony. The girl walked up to
him and told him ''you are finished.'Immed
iately the VC announced and told the guy,his
papers were not found, that he never did his
registration during the admission process. He
had to start all over again after wasting 5
years of hadwork. However...The girl was the
brain behind the missing papers. How
heartless some girls can be! My question here
is, who is more heartless, THE GUY or THE
GIRL?

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Ariwoola Temitayo

Am sure lessons to be learnt this evening would be of benefit to those who flirt around and wished all ladies were theirs..Kola's case on issues in Dating was sent to my 2go ward,I felt sorry and shed tears as it was explained to me..
Am married and by his grace my marriage will be 2yrs soon..
During my school days,I hardly do wthout having sex at least 3 times in a week wth different ladies..this...

continued for years,am used to it,i feel incomplete wen I dnt ve sex in 3days..
I got engaged,there after this problm of fruit of the womb erupted,my wife couldn't conceived..all effort to solve d problm proved abortive as doctors frm different hospitals keep saying the problem comes frm my body..
Am so confused that I dnt know if its a spiritual or physical problem
What shd I do?can dis be from my past or what?

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Ariwoola Temitayo

Failure in marriage can derail your purpose.

The solution to divorce is not to get married for the 2nd time but a time to get more knoledge.

Age does not qualify you for marriage,it is knoledge
...

Love is not a gurantee that gurantees a sucessful marraige

The problem we face in relationship is not INTERPERSONAL bt INTRAPERSONAL

The problem of INTERPERSONAL is not as hard as INTRAPERSONAL one..

Marriage does not solve ur LONELINESS,it adds to ur LONELINESS

M-meet
A-A
N-Need

Many stones have been left unturned in issues,relationships,marriages,courtship.Many would take the less important as cogent while d salients ones were often touched last..many would say,it dosnt matter,wen we start living together,I can change him/her..Note this,if u can't change now,then u can't change tomorrow..
*BACKGROUND DIFFERENCES
*MODE OF COMMUNICATION
*CONFLICT RESOLUTION
*AND FORGIVENESS are matters that must not be slightly played with..Thus,this led to a critical research by Dr.Issues in Dating...
BACKGROUND DIFFERENCE
Prov.18:2,A fool hath no delight in understanding,but that his heart discover itself..
Ask urself if the problems u are facing right now are just the result of ur background difference,instead of a major incompatibility.Does your disagreement,for example,stem from small differences you can both work on,like table manners,mode of dress,or choice of exclamatory words?
These could trigger disagreement.Something like how birthdays should be celebrated,if at all,could pose a major problem in your marriage.it may depend on how it was done in your family wen u were growing up..these matters can be sorted out if background differences are taken into consideration..
Mind you,courtship is a time to strenghten out things,to lay a proper foundation.You need to take time to look into your intended spouse's background while u are courting.
How does he or she co exist with his or her family?
How does the father treat the mother?these may be the reasons why you are having problems you can't understand.How do they resolve their conflicts?how much liberty do the children have to express themselves?How does ur intended spouse treat his parents and siblings,or respond to them?what level of bond exists between parents,parents and children,children among themselves?How do they treat their domestic servant at ur present?Is ur intended wife's mother the bread winner of their family?Then she is likey to be a career concious wife.If her mother is d bread winner of the famiily,does she treat her husband with respect?there is every likelihood that ur intended spouse will respond similarly to you,given the same circumstances...
If ur wife to be comes frm a family where the mother always shouts the father down whenever he wants to talk,be careful.Chances are that she may have picked that up.If her mother engages in argument readily,u may have a bellicose wife to cope with.
Oro po ninu iwe kobo..did sm1 jst say hmmmn?same tin here.
A man whose father keeps late hours without seeing anytin wrong with it,will probably do the same.He will need the grace of God to make him behave differently..mind u,
YOUR FAMiLY BACkGROUND WILL NOT NECESSARILY DICTATE WAT UR MARRIAGE WILL BE.Both of u are going to decide how u want your marriage to be,with a lot of information of wat ur backgrounds have been like.Many compromises will have to be made.We look at our families and decide either to repeat the pattern,if our experiences were positive,or we try to create the opppsite..
While it is good,better,or even best to find sm1 whose background is reconcile with ur own,it is however,not impossible to live with a person from a different background.Both of u shd work on ISSUES,which are bound to arise as a result of ur different backgrounds.This is wat courtship ENTAILS. However, let him or her know how u feel about his or her background which is evident by the way he or she behaves or expects people to behave.Meanwhile,be careful not to be judgmental about this.It shd be an open,heart to heart talk,with neither of u attempting to put the other person down or make prescription about what is wrong or right.you are bound to RUN into trouble if u start seeing these differences as either right or wrong...
JOIN U SHORTLY FOR
MODE OF COMMUNICATION
CONFLICT RESOLUTION AND FORGIVENESS...

Yours sincerely,
Dr Issues