8 Things Guys Do That Show Ladies Are In Control Of Their Lives

There is a limit to everything in life most especially when it comes to relationship and marriage because if the function of a man is switched, people will term the lady in his life as a witch.
This is why it is advisable for couples or “couples to be” not to overstep their boundary when displaying love as the gossips, the broken hearted and perhaps those who mean well will term such guy as a slow poke person.
Going straight to the business of the day, let’s take a brief look on things guys do that show ladies are in control of their life.
1. Becoming her errand boy/puppet
When men were boys, ladies used me as their puppet by sending me to buy food, fetch water and others. My friends made jest of me, calling me lover boy and reported me to my parents that I am under chioma’s spell. grin
2. Suffering and Smiling Attitude
Some ladies are in the habit of abusing guys for no reason most especially if he is broke or too dumb to express his emotion. If a guy who used to be affluent and jovial becomes broke, ladies will ridicule and ruin his reputation in public as people will believe that his destiny has been nailed on a tree by her.
3. Emptying his account or pocket for her
I hate it when guys in their right senses empty their account for ladies to make Brazilian hair, buy expensive phones and other worthless purposes albeit him begging for N50 recharge card, garri, etc. wink cheesy
4. She eats assorted meals while he drinks water during date
Wonders shall never end as some guys exhibit pretence during date by drinking pure water while the lady he is asking out eats all sort of assorted meals. No doubt if this act continues, people will ask if the guy is mentally sound.
5. Helping her to attain good grade in school while he is on probation
This act is common in school where shallow minded guys act like machos by helping ladies to write test and assignment at the detriment of their success. This is perhaps one of the reasons why ladies are getting good jobs after school meanwhile guys with poor grades are struggling to get common cement lifting jobs. grin grin
6. Washing her under wears
I pity the life of some guys who believe that this act is out of love because apart from the fact that his image will be tarnished, those around will see him as a retaarded individual.
7. Loosing her hair regularly
Some guys are fun of this act which on regular occasion will attract insult from the society as people will advice such guys to visit MFM for deliverance. grin grin
8. Neglecting football match in order to satisfy her regularly
I have seen a die-hard football fan who became a “hommie” during live matches because his girlfriend told him to choose between football and her.
What amuses me is that this guy always satisfy her in terms of attention, care, money, etc but when a match is about to commence, this is when she starts nagging about him not respecting her feelings.

 

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Don’t Kill Yourself Over Anything Today (Read This Interesting Article)

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I vividly recall the story of a man who became popular for engaging in money rituals just to buy the 80’s edition of the Honda Prelude; you can buy that car for 50k today…..Vanity
A guy brutally murdered his brother, just because he wanted to acquire the rave of the moment – Pathfinder Jeep. That same vehicle is now better described as a coffin…. Vanity
I remember as a kid, my whole street gathered at a neighbour’s house to watch a”drama” shown on a “double-door black & white television”. Today there is plasma television and its almost found in every student’s room….. Vanity
Some ladies left their true loves because some rich guy then persuaded them with a Benz 190, which turned out to be the only car they ever owned till date. They found out too late that true love is invaluable….. Vanity
What about Santana, Mercedes Benz V boot, 505 Evolution, Toyota Crown?… All overtaken by latest models of Camry, Honda, Bugatti, Bentley, X6, Venza, Acura and Infinity…. Vanity!
A guy declared drinks because he launched the Nokia-3310 phone in 2002. Today that phone would embarrass the owner and is a joke compared to the low cost and everyday phones….. Vanity
What about the Celtel SIM card that many people went extra miles before they bought for over N15,000 today you will not buy it for even more than N200 because all d networks are begging people to even take it for free…. Vanity
People are still making the most horrific sacrifices over ‘vanity’ and make enemies over worthless material things. What can I say? Look back at that one thing you want to kill or die for today, and see what becomes of it tomorrow. There is absolutely nothing you can’t achieve. … Take it easy!
Most of the then lucrative job before are those the one that are roaming about the street now looking for any job to do
All you need is a little time and PATIENCE and you would thank God without regrets. There is actually nothing in this world that is worth going to Hell or die for, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!
The End.
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5 Questions You Need To Ask Yourself Before Going Into That New Relationship

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Summer has come to an end. Fall is upon us. I don’t know about you, but I’m looking forward to 60-degree weather. It allows for fashionable layers and cuddle sessions that don’t involve skin sticking to a leather couch.
Fall is certainly a great season to be in a relationship. But your relationship will fail if you’re not in it for the right reasons — no matter the season. To help prevent that from happening, I wrote up a list for you guys.
Unless you can answer these five questions correctly, you should stay away from dating. Buy yourself a sweater or two to keep warm.

Am I who I need to be?
When people think that adding someone to their lives will make them better, relationships fail. Instead, focus on making yourself better. Though finding that special someone will improve your life, you can’t rely on it.
A partner isn’t a solution to your problems. Your partner is there to simply be with you. And if you’re not the person you need to be, you’re bound to hit rough waters.
Sometimes it is possible to find yourself while you’re seeing someone. But the opposite is usually the case, and you come to know yourself best when you’re not in a relationship.
This is why “It’s not you; it’s me” is such a popular breakup line. We rush into relationships before we find ourselves, only to have to break things off because we realize that we aren’t yet ready. We aren’t yet the people we need to be.
Our journey doesn’t need to be travelled entirely alone, but parts of it must be. Be sure that you are who you need to be before you get yourself into a relationship.
If your partner is the one, but you’re not yet who you need to be, the relationship will fail. And it’s going to hurt.
Do I have it in me to make it work?
Our eyes are much hungrier than our stomachs. We reach for glory, understanding that the journey will be a struggle. But we throw in the towel when the struggle begins. Of course we want love, a partner and the security of a relationship. But few of us have it in us to make it work.
The only way to know whether you have it in you to make it work is if you’ve experienced the struggle before. This is the struggle of balancing being an individual and being a team member (The “team” in this case is your relationship — hopefully a loving, caring one).
If you are an inexperienced lover, the chances of making it work are slim to none. I’m sorry to tell you that, but it’s true.
It is not until you understand the compromises and sacrifices that need to be made — and are willing to make them happily — that you can make the relationship work.
Do I love myself, or am I relying on my partner’s love for me?
People have an intrinsic need to feel love and compa$$ion. Without it, we’re incomplete, unhappy and unfulfilled. We need love to feel like we’re good people. I know how basic that sounds, but not everyone in the world feels this.
And even when they do, they still want confirmation from others. They want to know that others see them as the wonderful people they believe they are.
The problem is that some of us don’t necessarily believe that we’re good. Some believe that they’re flawed, bad, damaged or deformed (physically or spiritually). And these people still need to be loved.
But you can’t go out and find love from others if you haven’t yet figured out how to love yourself. Unless you learn to love yourself first and foremost, you’ll never find your fairytale love. It’s literally impossible.
You’ll either latch onto your partner in an unhealthy way, or you’ll refuse to believe that someone could love you when you can’t even love you. I’ve seen it happen, and it broke my heart.
Am I in this for the right reasons?
Some of us date because we believe it’s what we’re supposed to do. Some of us date because we’re bored. Some of us date because we want to have $ex and think that being in a relationship is the healthiest way to do this.
People date for countless reasons, but there’s only one right reason.
If you’re thinking about getting into a relationship, you need to do this only when you’ve found the right person.
You don’t have to be 100 percent certain of your choice, but you do have to believe there is a good chance this person is the one you’ve been seeking.
Relationships exist to make our lives better, happier and more fulfilling. Not only do they allow us to experience happiness; they also let us share in someone else’s.
Deciding to be in a relationship in order to get over your ex — or for any reason other than to find true love — is, simply put, wrong.
Is my partner in it for the right reasons?
Things can fall apart even when you’re in the right place in life, in the right mindset and in the relationship for the right reasons. It takes two to tango, and even if you don’t have two left feet, your partner very well may.
Life and love would be much simpler if the people in relationships were always on the same page. We would save ourselves so much heartache and prevent many tears. But that is not reality.
No matter how amazing you are or how ready you are for commitment, things aren’t going to work out if your partner isn’t feeling the same way. You can love someone with your whole heart, but if that person isn’t ready, then it won’t work. I’m sorry.
I wish I could tell you about something that you could do.
In the end, I realized that two people — no matter how much they love each other — sometimes just can’t be who they need to be for the love to last. It’s not your fault or your partner’s; it’s just the way the cards were dealt.

OMG! Just Imagine What This Lady Did To Her Boyfriend (Photo)

Ladies, allow your man see your face the way it is to make a wise decision. Stop the deceit please. Lol!
The Husband don enter one chance

 

Reasons You Should Never Force A Relationship On A Lady

This ‘letter’ has two purposes: To Warn and to Advice.
The Warning Part
A friend once told me of how a guy was pestering her life with all manner of suggestive texts and suspicious gestures, trying to FORCE her into an unscrupulous relationship.
I was pissed because my dear was being threatened and more pissed because he was ignorantly stubborn hoping he could date someone like my friend- who’s got morals.
Some guys of today, go around with the malicious mindset that the size of their m*****d can substitute the size of their “mindhood”. Simply put: Don’t build your life around No girl- It’s not worth it. Build around a worthy goal and all these other things shall be added unto you It’s plain illiteracy to go after a girl that way!
The Advice Part
This is like the body of this thread; REASONS YOU SHOULD NEVER FORCE YOURSELF ON ANY GIRL, in view of a relationship.
Quickly, let’s see a few:
1. All ladies are the same
I’m not on the contrary… You see, it beats my imagination how guys move from one girl to another, does she have a different ‘privy part’ from the other girl? Because, that’s the major reasons guys cheat. Don’t FORCE yourself on any girl because there is so much more than meets the eye, so carefully take note of the nuances and unspoken words, body movements and gestures. Break Up is an unnecessary evil.
2. We are told to Approach and not to Encroach
In my little time around ladies, whether friends or crushes; I’ve discovered that you could actually be encroaching thinking you are approaching. Before getting too involved, be sure it’s not in vain. “Years Of Friendzoning Makes A Guy Look Like He’s Been Duped”
Approach her if you like her. When you discover her heart is elsewhere, dump her.
3. Girls Need Guys More Than Guys Need Them
Am I quoting Scriptures here? Before someone calls me a chauvinist, the Bible spoke about, in the ET, it will be seven ladies to just one guy. Take it or leave it, girls wish they could ask guys out . For many reasons; Protection, Financial assistance, Warmth, Leadership, Companionship etc. Guys, don’t FORCE yourself on any lady, whosoever please.
4. It Sends The Wrong Signal
Trying to get her to like you in a short period of time sends the opposite message. Good intention, yea, but it sends a “Desperate Call” to her. Not FORCING yourself on any accords you some form of honour and avoid insults too.
5. The “You Forced Me Into This Relationship” Speech May Surface.
If you didn’t understand the rest points, at least grasp this point, don’t FORCE a girl into your life and family. If you FORCE her to come, you’ll do same to get her to stay. Fine or Average-looking, they’re the same; same sexual parts! In fact, let her make the choice of choosing you without any coercion from anyone.
Forcing a girl into a relationship with you is plain stupidity. Who says you can’t approach?
You can but don’t use the law of Force saying, “If I don’t have you, I’ll die”— Lielie, is your name Laila?
To me, state your aim for getting close to her, watch her reaction for days. React based on those figures.

8 Ways Guys Payback Ladies When They Become Rich

The frustration and condemnation broke guys experience from people (ladies in particular) is synonymous to the way society treat a lunatic but the story changes for such guys when they move from grass to grace as friends, families and even enemies will want to have their share of national cake at all cost.
Their change in level will no doubt attract different category of ladies in which he will be seen as the new cash daddy in town to relief their financial woes but left to him, he will device ways to punish them which are as follows;
1. Wind up and lock his car doors when driving
I was fortunate to be among a group of ladies discussing men issue as one of them aired her annoyance towards a big boy who deliberately wind up and lock his car doors when she approached him for a lift. I cannot hold the laugh bursting from my mouth when I heard her silly story but one thing for sure is that if a guy with keke or okada offer her a lift, she will rain curse on his generation.
2. Dump them after exploring their kitty cat
For a guy who just hit jackpot after hustling, he verges into playboy mechanism by enticing ladies with money, harnessing their kitty cats and dump them like those sewage and refuse at ojota.
3. Treat ladies with disdain
Owning to the insult rich dudes have received when they had nothing in the past, they unleash their venom on ladies by embarrassing them on date, speak ill words during their visit, comparing them to jezebel, and fling them out of their apartment at midnight.
4. Save their numbers with horrible names
I was opportune to have access to my big brother’s phone and when I scrolled through his BBM and whatsapp contacts, I laughed out loud like someone in comedy house because of funny and horrible names like “Chopandquench”, “Thief”, “Gold digger”, etc he used in saving his several chicks.
5. Ignore ladies call
An adage says “where there is money, there is friend”. Once a Lady knows that the story of a broke guy has changed to laughter, she calls frequently which may run his phone battery death as no doubt he will have no choice than to ignore her calls or perhaps deletes her number.
6. Refuse to drop his contact details
I cannot but shake my head when ladies chase a rich dude in order to get his phone number, BlackBerry PIN and house address of which he may reject instantly. Meanwhile when he was a nobody seeking for their love, they see him as a nonentity.
7. Stingy to broke and hungry ladies
The encroachment of broke and hungry ladies is more devastating than grasshoppers nesting on a farmland. Immediately a rich dude notice this attitude in a lady, he becomes very stingy in a way to pursue them.
8. Toil with their emotion
This is an act these category of guys adopt since their feelings was played in the past like football as they use it as payback to ladies by making them fall in love and break their heart afterwards.
Bonus:
* They Start Acting Like Buhari
When they become rich they go around with the mentality that they can get any lady at the tip of their finger. They start commanding ladies even the way Buhari cannot control Saraki.
* They Expect The Lady To Make Advances
Some of them will sit on the bed and will expect the lady to come to them, grab them and off their boxers before they make move cheesy

 

No Dull Yourself: Break Up If Your Partner Shows Any Of These 8 Signs

According to Krystle Crossman of Healthy Black Woman, it is a sad and unfortunate fact that many women are in abusive relationships. It is an even more unfortunate fact that many of them don’t realize what path the relationship is headed down until it is too late.

Crossman lists some warning signs that you may be in an abusive relationship and should get out before it gets worse:
1. When you are around other people your partner likes to humiliate you: They will call you names and degrade you in front of anyone that you meet. They do this to have dominance in the relationship. They like to destroy your self-worth so that you feel like you don’t deserve anyone better.
2. You are not allowed to make your own decisions: They decide where you go, when you go, who you are friends with, and what you are allowed to wear. You have no control over your life anymore. Your independence is gone and they control every little thing that you do.

3. When you have done something that they don’t like or are not doing something they want they will threaten you: It may be a threat of physical harm or something else such as ending the relationship. Many women pa$$ this off because they feel that they are empty threats but they often turn into real threats which they act upon.

4. If they are spoken to about their abusive behavior they will pass the blame off on you stating that you deserved it: They will deny that they are doing anything wrong and state that if you didn’t do certain things they wouldn’t have to hurt you.

5. If you are financially dependent on them they will use money against you: They will threaten to leave and take everything. They will give you an “allowance” and not let you touch the money that comes in. They may even restrict you from working so that you depend completely on them for income.
6. They will limit or completely destroy any relationship that you have with your family and friends: They do not want you to talk to others about the relationship and they do not want other people putting ideas in your head. This gives them complete control.
7. If you have children together they will often use them against you: They will turn the children against you by lying to them. They will use the children as a bargaining tool if they feel like you are going to leave them.

8. They will make you fear them: Intimidation is a way for them to control you and make sure you do everything that they want. They want to make sure that you are afraid to do anything wrong and too afraid to leave