Many stones have been left unturned in issues,relationships,marriages,courtship.Many would take the less important as cogent while d salients ones were often touched last..many would say,it dosnt matter,wen we start living together,I can change him/her..Note this,if u can't change now,then u can't change tomorrow..
*BACKGROUND DIFFERENCES
*MODE OF COMMUNICATION
*CONFLICT RESOLUTION
*AND FORGIVENESS are matters that must not be slightly played with..Thus,this led to a critical research by Dr.Issues in Dating...
BACKGROUND DIFFERENCE
Prov.18:2,A fool hath no delight in understanding,but that his heart discover itself..
Ask urself if the problems u are facing right now are just the result of ur background difference,instead of a major incompatibility.Does your disagreement,for example,stem from small differences you can both work on,like table manners,mode of dress,or choice of exclamatory words?
These could trigger disagreement.Something like how birthdays should be celebrated,if at all,could pose a major problem in your marriage.it may depend on how it was done in your family wen u were growing up..these matters can be sorted out if background differences are taken into consideration..
Mind you,courtship is a time to strenghten out things,to lay a proper foundation.You need to take time to look into your intended spouse's background while u are courting.
How does he or she co exist with his or her family?
How does the father treat the mother?these may be the reasons why you are having problems you can't understand.How do they resolve their conflicts?how much liberty do the children have to express themselves?How does ur intended spouse treat his parents and siblings,or respond to them?what level of bond exists between parents,parents and children,children among themselves?How do they treat their domestic servant at ur present?Is ur intended wife's mother the bread winner of their family?Then she is likey to be a career concious wife.If her mother is d bread winner of the famiily,does she treat her husband with respect?there is every likelihood that ur intended spouse will respond similarly to you,given the same circumstances...
If ur wife to be comes frm a family where the mother always shouts the father down whenever he wants to talk,be careful.Chances are that she may have picked that up.If her mother engages in argument readily,u may have a bellicose wife to cope with.
Oro po ninu iwe kobo..did sm1 jst say hmmmn?same tin here.
A man whose father keeps late hours without seeing anytin wrong with it,will probably do the same.He will need the grace of God to make him behave differently..mind u,
YOUR FAMiLY BACkGROUND WILL NOT NECESSARILY DICTATE WAT UR MARRIAGE WILL BE.Both of u are going to decide how u want your marriage to be,with a lot of information of wat ur backgrounds have been like.Many compromises will have to be made.We look at our families and decide either to repeat the pattern,if our experiences were positive,or we try to create the opppsite..
While it is good,better,or even best to find sm1 whose background is reconcile with ur own,it is however,not impossible to live with a person from a different background.Both of u shd work on ISSUES,which are bound to arise as a result of ur different backgrounds.This is wat courtship ENTAILS. However, let him or her know how u feel about his or her background which is evident by the way he or she behaves or expects people to behave.Meanwhile,be careful not to be judgmental about this.It shd be an open,heart to heart talk,with neither of u attempting to put the other person down or make prescription about what is wrong or right.you are bound to RUN into trouble if u start seeing these differences as either right or wrong...
JOIN U SHORTLY FOR
MODE OF COMMUNICATION
CONFLICT RESOLUTION AND FORGIVENESS...

Yours sincerely,
Dr Issues