RULES TO FALLING IN LOVE


1. Don’t go into a relationship with your heaven closed
Let God lead you in your relationship before it leads to marriage, at most you can only know the “container” you can’t know the “content”. Only God knows what is inside, many only make judgment base on the outside. Unfortunately, you will live the rest of your life with the content.
2. Don’t go into a relationship with your eyes closed
Open your eyes, don’t close it. Love is not blind, not at all, if you close your eyes to obvious flaws now, they may floor your life tomorrow.
3. Don’t go into a relationship with your mouth closed
Open your mouth and ask questions. Query your beloved, don’t be too much in love that you fail to ask the right questions.
Ask him or her about his or her health status, educational background, past relationship, job, money, habits, vision for the future, indebtedness, family obligations, past success and failures etc.
4. Don’t go into a relationship with your mind without taking your brain along
Be wise, don’t base your relationship on emotion, use your common sense, if he does not love you, then let your legs speak on your behalf.
Don’t beg to be loved, if he beat you in courtship, he may become a boxer in marriage, guess who his opponent will be? You!
5. Don’t go into a relationship with pretense
Be yourself, don’t pretend. Don’t be a masquerade, don’t deceive anybody to love you, don’t cover your broken or crack pots with wax, fire will expose it. Base your future on the truth, never live on lies, dishonesty and misrepresentation.
6. Don’t go into a relationship without investigation
He speaks sweetly, his oratory power is incomparable, he looks smooth and seems to have answer to every question. Don’t be carried away, carry out your investigations. She may look beautiful, with straight legs, spotless body, angelic voice, clean skin, with figure-eight body, looking sheepish, cool and calm. Hmmmmm, don’t fall for that, these features don’t last, investigate her carefully and know what you are going into.
7. Don’t go into a relationship against wise counsel
Everybody seems to be against him. All your friends seems to hate her. Your siblings, pastor, parents, mentors etc. seems to have a reservation about her, they all are saying the same thing, they don’t want you to marry that fellow.
To you, they are all wrong, “I know what am doing” you say. That will be dangerous for you in the future if you don’t listen to wise counsel today, you may have many things to regret tomorrow.
8. Don’t base your marital choice on material things
He has money, he walks in a reputable organisation, her father is very rich, she is an American Citizen. Don’t base your marital choice on things that will not last, it always ends in regret.
9. Don’t beg to be loved, Don’t pay for love
You need not beg that man to love you, you need not pay for that lady to love you.
Hey girl, you are beautiful enough to be loved. Don’t pay for it, don’t beg for it. If he does not love you naturally, you will be hurting your future by ‘bribing’ him to love you.
If that lady does not love you, let her go. You know that her mind is with someone else but you want to pay your way into her heart. You may regret later. Let love be mutual, let it be natural, let it come from the mind of the lover, don’t stuff it into his or her head. If you do, after some time it will be all over and you will be back in square one.