GREAT LESSONS TO BE LEARNT!!!!

THEME;DYING IN SILENCE!!!

Rita seemed to be overwhelmed by anxiety and depression as she poured out her heart to me.she was trying to hide her nervous tension under a calm exterior..
She began by explaining that she didn't understand why she couldn't cope,why she was simply falling apart.She had looked for solutions in different areas,reading books about coping with anxiety and depression,and attending every marriage and sucessful living seminar she got wind of.However,these didn't eem to work for her and her frustration was causing her faith to waiver.She began to doubt if christ was the answer,as he didn't seem to answer her prayers..
What was Rita's problem,why was she so upset?she couldn't place her finger on it,except,her husband's affair had something to do with it..Kola,her husband,had been seeing a single girl for about a year,who had a baby with him.Rita was puzzled by the fact that she couldn't handle the news of her husband's child.Strange as it may seem,Rita was no stranger of infidelity.Kola had had many affairs over their eight yrs of marriage and this was the second child he had fathered out of wedlock.It was obvious that kola had a problem with self control because Rita could vividly remeber that Kola had been seeing other girls even while they were couting.
The fact that she had put up with eight years of infidelity and had been concealing her feelings,was destroying Rita's health.Kola,on the issue,as it afforded him the luxury of having a cook,laundress and mother for his children,as well as permission to maintain countless concubines.Rita had to realize that most of her problems were due to her incredible passivity and lack of critical discernment.She had to see that,although she might passively absorb abuse,her stomanch and every nerve in her body were going to urge back.On the other hand,developing assertiveness and expressing outrage at Kola's behaviour,would inevitably result in her leaving him.That was exactly what happened in the end..
Rita was scared of being alone and considered the innumerable role of being alone that Kola played in her life to give her reasons for shying away frm divorce.Finally,Kola made the decision for her and filed for divorce.The divorce went through and kola married one of his girlfrnds.Kola had closed the door to any hope that they would ever get back together again.Rita was now single and she had get on with her life...